the Apprentice Gardener

Striving to bring beauty to the little corner of the earth where God has placed me.

REBEL, the Verb and Not the Noun

Aaron and I went to a teen event tonight entitled “Pure Rebellion”.  We went to support a friend and to get material for the book I’m writing, but can I just say “WOW”?  I think sometimes I forget that God can meet us anywhere, even a thirty-something at a teen event =).

The most meaningful (by this I mean convicting) part of the evening was when a guy close to our age came to answer some of the questions the teens had.  He answered their Qs with a message that conveyed that we worship our passion, whatever that may be.  And then he posed a question to the audience…”what is your master passion?”

What is MY master passion?  I didn’t have an answer.  I wanted to say that it was God, but I wasn’t sure if I could claim it and mean it.  I’m ashamed of that. 

As I sat there listening and pondering, I realized that in the shuffle of my too busy life, I’ve forgotten God’s love for me.  I’ve forgotten what He’s saved me from, the miracles He has performed in my heart, the gifts of grace He’s given to me.  Because really, if you can grasp the awesomeness of Christ and what He has done for each of us, how could He not be one’s Master Passion?

Fear.  That awful, ugly enemy is what keeps me from remembering who Jesus is and embracing Him with all that I am and all that I have.  The fear wants to keep Jesus in the background because I can still feel the sting from the last time, many years ago, when I begged Him to be real to me and be my everything.  His methods were not what I had in mind, they were scary, in all honesty, and painful and yet…and yet, wading through my uncertainties, I do love Him now more than I did before.  So, He answered my heartfelt cry in an out-of-the box way and I am much better for it.

I am ready again to place my heart entirely in His hands, knowing without a doubt that He is good that His glory and beauty will outlast anything I could possibly offer in return.  I know my future will hold difficulties and challenges in response to this prayer, but what is victory without first the battle?  The striving and struggling to persevere?  Strength does not typically come in the form of drifting down a quiet river sitting comfy in an inner tube.  Strength comes from crashing through the rapids and it is then you see your true self and it is then you really see Him.

The young man emceeing “Pure Rebellion” pointed out that a rebel bucks against the majority, pushes against the mainstream, so how is it rebelling to sin when that is what everyone else is doing?  The real rebel goes against the flow.  The true rebel follows Christ.

Jesus, I am a rebel.  Be my Master Passion.

A Hopeless Lawn

When the snow had disappeared, bright green shoots of grass were indeed present as I had hoped.  All of the blossom trees were beginning to sprout and I grew anxious for the colorful buds to open and stretch, revealing their spring colors.

Alas, as more and more of our lawn turned lush, it was evident that several portions were going to remain in their deadened state.  In all honesty, I was horrified.  Perhaps that seems a dramatic response to the state of one’s grass, but I could not keep the disappointment at bay every time I wandered outside.

Aaron and I consider ourselves to be green thumbs, loving to be outside in our little  yard, planting and pruning, making our little plot as lovely as possible.  Much time and (cringe) money has been spent over the last couple of years to take care of our thriving garden, miniature as it may be.  To see garish chunks of yellowed lawn that refused to come back to life was more than disheartening.

The lifeless grass surrounded by thriving growth seemed to me to be a picture of my inner self, deep inside where only God and I could see.  Certain segments growing stronger, multiplying and flourishing, while other fragments remained in that deathlike stillness, sorrowful, hopeless.

Even when faced with discouragement, I knew I could not give up no matter how tempting the thought was.  I watered the limp and unresponsive pieces of grass, hired someone to aerate, watched the weather report to find a day that would be perfect for Aaron to fertilize.  All the while realizing that I was also tending to my soul with the same tenacity and refusal to give up when life’s challenges threatened to overcome.  I watered and fertilized my spirit and heart with favorite portions of scripture, verses that I knew to be true, but wanted to make sure that my heart believed as well.

I waited and watched our yard, checking on it while the kids rode their bikes joyfully up and down the sidewalk.  The healthy areas were increasing, the sickly ones seemed not likely to budge from their weakened state.  Despair sounds too intense of a noun, but it was what I felt.

Several nights ago, over dinner, Nathaniel looked up and said randomly:  “Hey Mom, did you notice that shoots of green grass are growing up through those dead spots?”  My head shot up, disbelievingly.  “Really?”  He nodded and went back to eating, not knowing how deeply his words penetrated into my heart.  Not content with hearsay, I had to check it out for myself.  Sure enough, healthy spikes of new growth were peering through the earth, not intimidated by their surroundings.  As hope surged, I realized that even while God had been working in the soil where I could not see, His faithful hands had been turning over loam in my own heart.  Hope had been emerging there as well in the generous gesture of a friend, the witty words written on a page that brought a smile, the sweet arms of my children hanging around my neck, the bars of dark chocolate handed to me by the man I’m desperately in love with.  Life and hope bounding up despite the odds.  This is the God I know and love.

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He Makes All Things New

When I peered out of the window yesterday morning, I was mildly surprised to discover it was snowing.  I say mildly, because though I had no expectation of a white Easter, the weather in Colorado is quite the unexpected adventure =).

As we drove to church, I watched the huge flakes falling and instead of being put out by the snowy morning, thought about it being a perfect way for God to remind me that though my sins were as scarlet, He has washed them white as snow.  Of course that was all before we drove up to my parent’s home in the Black Forest and our van decided it was not as blessed by the frosty flurries and promptly got stuck in them.

There we were at the end of my parent’s street, my sister waving at us from inside her equally stuck vehicle, where we spent the next thirty minutes alternately reversing and digging the van out of the snow.  I felt helpless sitting in there with the kids watching my dad and Aaron out there with the shovels, but I made up for it later.  We were finally able to clear enough room to get the van on the side of the road, out of the way of oncoming traffic.

A lovely task awaited us once we’d parked…getting everything we’d brought with us from the van into the house.  I grabbed two little suitcases in one hand and in the other helped Nathaniel carry a loaded laundry basket up the street and up the long, somewhat steep driveway.  I’m a little cautious to admit this, as it reveals how out of shape I am, but it took a few hours before the muscles in my arms stopped shaking from lugging all of that stuff in.  Grateful that we’d brought everything we would need to stay the night, we settled in for the long haul and enjoyed our afternoon and evening, allowing the stress of what had happened to melt away as the minutes ticked by.

First thing this morning when I awoke, a line from a song popped into my head.  I cannot remember the song title, or who sings the ballad, but the lyrics were clear as anything:  You make all things new.  Thinking about our day yesterday and more specifically the Resurrection we celebrated, I was struck with the truth of that statement.  He does make all things new.  Two thousand years ago when He gave His life for mine, He gave me the chance to experience new life and forgiveness in Him.  Yesterday, our morning started with beauty, moved on to frustration, but today we have been given another day where He has made all things new.  And when the snow melts and we begin glimpsing the beginnings of spring that are growing more prevalent each day, I will again be reminded of how He makes all things new.

When you stop to chew on that, it is staggering in both its simplicity and complexity.  He makes all things new.

 

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Life in the Kitchen

We are in the midst of potty training our youngest child (woo hoo, almost done with diapers!!), which has brought life as we knew it to a halt.  We hardly remember we have an upper level in our house and oh, is that a basement down those dark stairs??  Our entire life has been compressed into our kitchen where “accidents” are much easier to clean up.

Needless to say, I am grateful that our kitchen is not like all the others we’ve had here in Colorado, a narrow little hallway barely large enough for Aaron and I to pass each other.  What a miserable little life we’d be living right now if that were the case =(~.

Living in the kitchen for the last week, so to speak, has made me think of those pioneer women whose entire home was probably close to the size of the room where I cook.  They spent much of their day in that same location and if the weather was bad (like it is here today), all of their kids were probably there with them.  I can just imagine the little ones playing in the dirt on the floor, like my little two (minus the dirt…I think).  The older ones working on arithmetic and writing with sighs of exasperation in between.

I have a great amount of respect for those women who went before us to give us the kind of life we enjoy.  I think of all they were called to do: leaving a life of comfort and family, following a man with a dream, trekking across vast and frightening portions of a country over trails few had traversed to face the unknown, dealing with pain and hardship, the likes we know nothing of.  They made their home in a new land, in a wild territory wondering if it would ever be tamed.

I have a dishwasher, washer and dryer for my laundry, I have a bread maker to make bread or I just buy it at the grocery store.  I drive a comfortable van and can turn the radio up in order to not hear the kids bickering in the backseat.  I am not cut from the same cloth as those women who tamed this feral terrain.  I look up to them in wonder at their courage and strength.

But…I do wonder sometimes, about the things God asks of me.    He often asks me to embrace something new that frightens me, to wade across the shores of wifering (my own new word =) ) and mothering not knowing what the end result will be.  And many, many times, He has lovingly led me from a place of comfort into foreign soil.  Soil I was sure would always be an out-of-hand mess and untameable.  It has always been in those rough and unruly places where He has met me and I’ve seen Him anew.

I’m a human, an American to boot, which means that a great part of me prefers a life of ease.  But I would not trade those wild lands where God’s nearness is almost palpable for a life of greatest comfort and wealth.

So, maybe I’m a pioneer woman at heart.  I guess I’ll never really know =).

Let’s Make a Deal

It really is quite silly to think of making a deal with God and yet how many of us have done this? I won’t ask for a show of hands =).

About a year and a half ago, when God began communicating to me that as a writer I was actually supposed to be writing, I tried to cut him a deal.  My hiatus from writing came from a variety of different things, but it didn’t really matter.  For the first time in my life I wasn’t writing and um, He noticed.  I had a long conversation with Him and told Him that I would begin writing again when I had a laptop computer.  Being the well-thought out type of person that I am, I gave Him a very thorough list of why I needed a laptop and why it was important for me to have it before I could write again.

And then, out of the sky, He dropped a beautiful laptop.  The angels were singing, playing on their harps of gold, bright lights shone around me and…okay, so that’s not what happened…at all.  Here’s the real scoop:  God said “no” to the laptop and over the next several weeks (I think it was even months), He kept prodding my spirit to write down what He was putting in my heart.  Being slightly stubborn, I resisted to the point of misery not just because I hadn’t gotten my laptop, but because I was in protest of the things He was asking me to write (longer story for another time).

Finally, a year ago January, I acquiesced, created a new document in Word, and got to work.  Six months of excruciating writing followed, I’ll spare you the details, but writing has never been so hard for me.  But as I ploughed on in obedience (even if it was sometimes with a scowl), things got a  bit easier.  I worked out some kinks, took another brief break, and started afresh in December with even better ideas and a clearer vision.

Most amazing to me were the changes in my heart as I obeyed despite my feelings.  There is a peace and a blessing that comes from doing the right thing no matter what and I’m very glad I’ve been the recipient =).

Then, this Christmas, as we were opening presents, Aaron came out of our closet holding a laptop in his hands, with the words Merry Christmas flashing across the screen.  I was speechless (and trust me, being struck dumb isn’t something that happens to me very often).  Aaron won the computer at his company Christmas party and kept it hidden for me until Christmas morning.  I had just been telling him the week before that I felt silly praying for a laptop when there were so many more important things to pray for.  He must’ve had a very difficult time keeping a straight face!

As the surprise wore in and the tears dried, something new settled into my heart.  Humility, fresh, beautiful, and powerful threatened to sweep me away.  God was going to give me a laptop all along, but my obedience needed to come first.  I have not stopped pondering that these last couple of months.

So, no more deal-making with the Creator of the universe.  Instead I’ll just trust Him to give me what I need when He thinks I need it.

Inauguration Reflections

On Tuesday, we took a brief hiatus from our normal school activities so the kids could watch history in the making.  None of them have seen an inauguration before, so it was very educational =).

If you’re expecting to read an Obama Bashing, you’ll have to go somewhere else.  If you were hoping to view an Obama Praising, you’ll have to travel elsewhere for that too.  I want to focus on the people who were present at the occasion.  As Obama walked in, you could feel the excitement tingling through the audience, hands were raised, tears coursed down cheeks, shouts of adoration could be heard.

Adoration.  Humans are made to worship.  God instilled that quality within us; the ability to love, to adore.  The bottom line is that if we’re not worshiping the King of kings, we will quickly find something else to put on the throne of our hearts…like the President of the United States.

If you take a look around, you will see how avidly we worship.  People worship cars, houses, spouses, kids, creation, actors, singers, athletes, leaders.  We worship ourselves too.  We spend a lot of time bowing down before stuff that will pass away, prostrating ourselves before other people who will ultimately fail us.

As I watched that crowd responding to Obama, my heart began to grieve for the dangers of worshipping a mere man.  At one of our lowest points, America is reaching her arms out, begging to be restored.  Our people are looking to Obama for salvation from our troubles, hope for our future.

Whether or not you support Obama is reallly rather immaterial.  You might not be one of his worshippers, instead you may be one of those that is wringing their hands wondering how on earth God could let this man become president.  There is one solution for the two sides of this coin and I offer it to you now:

Some trust in chariots and some in horses (some in presidents…Ralina’s version =) ), but we trust in the name of the Lord our God.  They are brought to their knees and fall, but we rise up and stand firm.  Psalm 20:7,8

Where is your hope?  In the President?  Our country?  In yourself?  If so, you may as well give way to discouragement now, for your hopes will surely be dashed and crushed.  But if our hope is in Christ then we will not buckle when men fail us, we will not be swayed when our country falls, because our Hope remains the same.  He is strong, steadfast, all-powerful.  We have nothing to fear.  To Him belongs our undying devotion.

Other Blogs

At the end of last year, I started two other blogs:

The Ankrum Clan – posts and pictures about my family:  http://www.theankrumclan.blogspot.com/

Ralina’s Reading Room – book recommendations for children and adults (mostly women =) ):  http://ralinasreadingroom.blogspot.com/

Lone Ranger

Our previous pastor used to like to say that there are no lone rangers in the kingdom of God.  I knew what he was trying to communicate, but it made me bristle nonetheless.  I’ve always liked being a lone ranger.  Isolation or being an island is not something that scares or overwhelms me.  There is a certain comfort, if you will, of not been tied too intricately to too many people.

In 2008, God decided to show me, his happy little lone ranger, a thing or two about people…about relationships.  From the beginning of the year to the end, circumstance after circumstance occurred where I found that there was an actual need for relationship.  As I’ve continued to study His Word and peel back new layers, I’ve been discovering just how precious God considers people to be and how integral He desires us to be connected together.  This can really be a most uncomfortable concept.  As the threads of our lives began to weave together with others, life can get stickier, messier, more painful,…and much richer.

The last months have brought a parade of lovely people into my life individually and into our lives as a family.  I have found myself actually looking forward to going to work where I know I will get to see some of these special people, or praying more often for the individuals at church (or lots of other places) whose needs have tugged at my heartstrings, or craved time with friends and family who have been a part of me for a very long time already (and have proven their worth by sticking around!).  I have longed for, more and more, to create deeper bonds with Aaron and our beautiful babies.

With sharper vision, I’ve been seeing the unique value of new relationships; with heartfelt stirrings, experienced the priceless treasure of mature friendships.  God has indeed created humans to connect with one another.  Elementary, dear Ralina, I know, but the fact that I am really starting to grasp this and even appreciate it is frankly, something quite new and almost awe-inspiring.

So, while the vision of the Lone Ranger galloping across the plains still beckons to my love affair with isolation, a new image is surfacing.  Even the Lone Ranger didn’t always ride alone (or maybe he never did, I wasn’t a fan of the old show =) ), he was accompanied by Tonto or Squanto, or whatever his name was, his faithful sidekick.  I guess we really do all need sidekicks or need to be one of the faithful ones surrounding others.  God designed it and even the Lone Ranger knew it =).

Freedom

The subject of freedom has been infiltrating my mind, as of late.  There is a great deal made in our world about having one’s freedom, but what exactly does it mean to be free?  I looked it up in my faithful Webster’s and discovered a long list of lovely thoughts…none of them quite expressing what I was looking for.  So, I’ve decided to invent my own definition =).

Freedom:  the abillity to soar; to fly unchecked and without fear.

This definition may not suit your fancy, but it is exactly the explanation that sets my heart aflutter.  I typically tend to be the kind of person who prefers being grounded, to see the road ahead of me nice and straight.  I like being in control (yes, I’m admitting it!) and knowing what I can expect from people, situations, and yes, even God.

As I grow closer to God, I see things in Him, about Him that I had not grasped before.  I love how Aslan is described (The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe) as not at all being tame, but very good and I believe that C.S. Lewis hit on a very important characteristic of God.  He is not tame, bound to regulations.  He is wild, free, but very good.  Except for the fact that He cannot sin, He is outside every human parameter.  The new thing for me, is that I’m realizing He wants me to be with Him.  To not get so caught up in my human agenda or time and space, but to be outside of it.  To not be so obsessed with my “secure” place on earth, planning my time to the minute, desiring to be in control of every aspect.  He wants me to be free as He is free.  Jumping into His arms, going willingly where He wants to take me, not being ruled by fear.  Refusing to be enslaved by the meager offerings of this world.  Not living my life for the expectation of others.  Loving Him with reckless abandon and living for only Him.  That is freedom beyond all freedoms.  And this is the very thing I have begun to long for.  This realization makes my heart pound the way it does when racing down a roller coaster…fear and excitement rolled into one.  But I’m going to learn to let go of that fear, to grab His hand and fly, the wind at my back.

Close Call

We had a frightening incident occur yesterday, the results of which displayed God’s incredible glory and power.  My dad penned the following to send to some friends and family, so I decided to snatch his account and post it here for you all to praise the Lord with us.

 

FROM THE DESK OF AL PARADISE

       I wanted to share what we believe was God’s healing touch and His grace and mercy in our lives yesterday.  We give praise, honor and glory to Him.

       Yesterday I went to my daughter’s house (Ralina) to pick up my grandson to spend a couple of days with us.  Just before leaving the house, my grandson was putting the last few items inside his backpack. He was
standing in the stairway while my three years old granddaughter (Sofia) was sitting about three steps below.  The backpack was top heavy and when he let it go it tumbled down and hit Sofia in the face.  The butt of his plastic machine gun protruding out of the bag hit her on the bridge of the nose.  The blood immediately gushed out of the nose area.  Ralina grabbed her quickly and rushed her to the kitchen sink, while I grabbed a towel and ice from the freezer.

       Sofia, of course, was crying uncontrollably and not wanting us to apply the ice to the sore area.  At this point, there was a considerable amount of blood on all three of us and it was hard to tell where all of the
blood was coming from.  I mentioned to Ralina that I thought Sofia’s nose was broken.  That possibility coupled with the amount of blood coming from little Sofia’s nostrils sent Ralina to a nearby chair for a few moments until the lightheadedness passed.  My hands shook slightly as I held the cloth gently to Sofia’s face while both Ralina and I prayed for Sofia out loud, asking our Heavenly Father to bring healing, to stop the bleeding, to lessen the pain and to comfort her.  We were also quoting some scriptures Sofia had recently memorized about being strong and courageous because God was with her.

       After what seemed like an eternity both the crying and the bleeding stopped.  We still had no idea the extent of her injury because the area was covered with blood.  Once we cleaned her up, I was expecting to find a large gash on her nose, maybe a couple of black eyes, a broken nose, or at the very least a welt or a bruise.  However, once the blood was removed, there was absolutely no evidence of any injury.  Ralina asked Sofia, “does your nose hurt?”  Her response was, “no”.  Ralina and I looked at each other and knew that we had just witnessed one of God’s miracles.  Ralina checked her out real good this morning and absolutely no evidence of any injury.  Praise the Lord!!!

       I was so grateful for all of the grandkids.  Nathaniel of course was very upset and we had to reassure him that it wasn’t is fault.  It was an accident!  Serena, immediately began cleaning up the blood off the floor.  Michael, not yet two years old, was crying at the sight of his big sister hurting so and wanted to comfort her.  ”Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort; who comforts us in all our affliction so that we may be able to comfort those
who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God”. (II Corinthians 1:3-4)

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